I’m quite pleased with this.
Rapping this out loud in my empty classroom like swag.
WALK INTO THE CLUB LIKE WADDUP I AM A BIG SCOT
I’M SO PUMPED ABOUT SOME VISION THAT THE WITCHES GOT
I WILL BE THANE, SO SAYS THE PROPHECY
THAT PEOPLE LIKE “DAMN, MACBETH DESERVES GLORY”
aw so many fanfics have asexual Sherlock have sex anyway aw come on they can do fun stuff I mean aw do you even remember how fun skipping was DO YOU AW
I’ve never played hide and seek with a gimp mask on though
this is social anxiety summed up in two gifs
friendly reminder that:
- you are not weak if you want meds for your disorder
- you are not weak if you relapse once
- you are not weak if you relapse a thousand times
- you are not weak if some kinds of therapy don’t work for you
- you are not weak if some kinds of meds don’t work for you
- you are not weak if you have a mental disorder.
So, as this blog is basically my “bitch and embarass Charlie blog” because he is just not allowed to know my actual blog…
I would like to announce that yesterday, Charlie wore a 1600s dress in our humanities course.
He looks lovely in a corset and petticoat.
Seeing him try to sit in it was even better.
Fuck you Immy. I looked FABULOUS.
Anonymous asked you:
Sooo you can be asexual and a sub? (genuine question from someone who’s neither and should be less ignorant before making an opinion on Elementary Sherlock’s sexuality)
[content notes: BDSM, discussion of sex, NSFW, brief mention of self-harm via car crash, mentions of food]
Yes! Absolutely! BDSM and kink roles really don’t necessarily have anything to do with sex at all, and even if sex is involved, sexual actions don’t necessarily have anything to do with one’s own sexuality.
For instance, someone can be a sub because:
- they want to consensually give up control (physical, psychological, and/or emotional) to someone else for a while,
- they enjoy a receiving a particular sensation (masochist and sub don’t necessarily equate but can go hand in hand),
- they want to serve and take care of others in a power-differentiated role (i.e. sub prepares food and brings Dom breakfast in bed coughJoanlockcough),
- they want to be taken care of by others in a power-differentiated role (i.e. sub spoon-fed dinner then kissed on the forehead and tucked into bed by caretaker Dom),
- they want to be given specific structure, orders, or discipline, or
- many other non-sexual reasons people feel like subs.
However, subs can also have sexual reasons and experiences in their subbiness and still be asexual. Asexuality is simply about not experiencing sexual attraction to other people. So, for instance:
- maybe they have a sub-related kink that they’re sexually into that gets them off, but it’s not about sexual attraction to another person, it’s about sexual arousal via that kink,
- maybe in the course of subbing they want to consensually give sexual pleasure to someone they like or love, but not because they’re sexually attracted to the person, and they won’t receive sexual reciprocation in return,
- maybe they do want to orgasm with the other person, but it’s because they want the release and they trust the other person, not because they’re attracted to the other person,
- maybe they’re gray-asexual in the demisexual way and do develop sexual attraction after a deep emotional connection, but are still on the asexual spectrum, or
- many other reasons.
You can also have kink attraction to someone without having sexual attraction to someone. I experience this a lot as a gray-asexual kinky person. Like I really want to consensually tie up, gag, slap, and hair-pull BBC!Sherlock (kink attraction) and consensually make him cry, lose control, and beg for mercy twice, after Irene Adler put the idea in my mind and after B.C. talked about having sensitive follicles. This idea is extremely appealing to me at a very subconscious, base level, but that doesn’t mean I’m sexually attracted to him (I’m really not).
So now that I’ve written the longest reply in the world (as I usually do when writing about kink and sex, because I love these topics), yes. Someone can be asexual and kinky at the same time.
And going back to Elementary!Sherlock:
- his disinterest/repulsion in sex from the first episode,
- but his beam of happiness at being a sub,
- plus his discussion of needing the release sometimes,
- plus his overall enthusiastic subbiness (including but not limited to for security/comfort like longlittleness’ theory about his shirt collars, keeping himself handcuffed while discussing emotional things, etc),
- plus his enthusiasm about Gwen and Olivia as a consensual experiment…
All lead me to the theory that Elementary!Sherlock is:
- a kinky asexual sub,
- who enjoys bondage/restriction,
- masochism as emotional grounding (I gathered this from the car crash),
- and power differences in daily tasks,
- is willing to partake in sex as long as the loss of control part for him is kinky, not sexual,
- his own sexual release might infrequently occur but is not sexualized,
- and the sexual fluids, noises, etc are part of a “yuck” (his words) but academically-interesting experiment.
Other interpretations of course welcome, but those are my thoughts!
Okay, wait so…an asexual person doing the “sub-y sex” thing, may not feel attracted to the person…but attract - in a manner of speaking - to the …sub-y parts of it? Am I getting this?
Tl;dnr? Yes. :D
I don’t know if you have any kinks or are asexual and I don’t have any kinks and am asexual so I’m going to throw that “kink” and “asexual” language out for a while to hopefully avoid confusing people!
I am a Dog Person. I love dogs! I love to pat dogs. I love to look at dogs. I love to play with dogs. I love to take dogs on a walk. I love to say really embarrassing things like ‘who’s a puppy you’re a puppy you are a puppy” to dogs even if they are obviously not puppies and come up to my shoulder if they jump up on me.
I am not a Bird Person. I don’t love birds. I don’t love to pat birds. I don’t love to look at birds. I don’t love to help birds exercise and entertain themselves. I don’t say embarrassing things to birds.
However, I like feathers. I really like feathers. I like to look at feathers and I like to touch feathers and when people have incorporated feathers into their clothing, I tend to like that incorporation!
Birds and feathers are obviously linked! But I don’t like feathers because they are related to birds. I like feathers for their very Feather-ness.
In the same way that I can really enjoy the Feather-ness of feathers while not caring about or having strong feelings for birds, an asexual can really enjoy fulfilling a sexual kink for its inherent kink-ness while not being attracted to the person with whom that activity is being carried out.
I feel like that shouldn’t have made sense??
But it does, so thank you!
fun fact: iraq, pakistan, afghanistan and saudi arabia have a higher percentage of women in the government than the us & the uk
another fun fact: white people tend to get very angry when you point this out to them
forget our previous bedding plans, i am getting one of these
it’s a “toddler air bed” but look at that and tell me that is not perfect for a blanket nest. it is mine